Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
Carl G. Jung
To whom?
You and your partner once loved and honored one another, in same sex relationships as much as a heterosexual couple or a family. The other person seemed to be an ideal completion and enrichment for your own life. Now one or both are unhappy with the relationship. Problems often show up in an acute crisis as
- nagging and lack of interest
- sexual neglect
- an affair or
- psychosomatic problems.
Instead of communicating your relationship shows
- criticism and accusations
- disregard or debasement
- defense or counteraccusations
- hidden aggression
Counter to your knowledge you expect the other to change. You discover yourself on a way towards inner or outward separation and want to change something, either alone or together. However, it is unclear how this may be accomplished.
Solutions, a common new start or a separation on good terms can only be expected from a constructive and respectful clearing of conflicts. Deadlocked patterns of behavior have to be identified without establishing a victim-offender relationship. I will help you towards a common process of awareness. Each person’s part in the conflict may thus be explored and the differences can be utilized as a ressource.
Experiences from your offspring family may have led to detremental expectations in your relationship: We will invite unhappiness if we expect our partner to fill in as an ideal parent. He or she will not be able to compensate us for what we missed from our father, mother, or siblings. Becoming aware of the pain producing expectation that the other may provide our well-being shows us our own illusion. In this case children may function as an additional source of conflict. It cannot be avoided to confront yourself with your own being as a man or a woman. A developmental process may result, which allows for an awareness of your own needs as well as for an acknowledgement of the other person’s needs.
In my concern love is a learning process leading from conflict analysis to a newly and active creation of a common relationship, resulting in
- reserving quality time together
- communicate with each other
- identifying and trying to solve conflicts together
- enhancing your ability to reconciliation.
This process is your personal involvement for peace in the environment which you can influence.
Contact
You are welcome as a couple or as an individual, if your partner chooses not to come. A single or several appointments of 90 minutes may be scheduled. It is also possible to book an appointment of an afternoon or a whole day.
Honorarium
Time and remuneration will be defined in advance, currently 160 Euro per 90 minutes.
In case of cancellation please notify me two work days in advance. Otherwise an arrangement fee has to be paid.
Couple counseling is not a service of health insurance agencies.